Entertainment - its impact to the Society

How many people do you know who have favourite celebrities and look for them in magazines or movies to see what the next hair or fashion trend is? However, this has brought  the realization that the entertainment industry is constantly changing our perceptions of who we are and is highly responsible for our changing cultural trends. People look at celebrities and completely change their own views and ideals in order to match what they see as perfection.

Why do we look to celebrities and the media for guidelines as to what should make a person happy when we should be happy with what we already have. Its good to want more and strive for higher goals; however, until a person reaches that state, it is important for them to be content with where they are, no matter the way they look, or the amount of money they make.

This trend makes it even harder on our society, making it seem as if a person must be perfect to be successful in this business. This has changed many people into constantly thinking that they are not good enough or good looking enough, which then causes lack of self-fulfillment.

Self-fulfillment and confidence are key ingredients for true happiness, but these ingredients are becoming hard to obtain. The media and entertainment industry are constantly sending out messages of what perfection is, making it difficult for some to be happy and content with the way they are.

Although entertainment industry has negatively affected the minds of people in society, I do not believe that the entertainment industry is bad. I just think that many aspects of this industry  need to be recognized and changed somehow so that our minds are not clouded with this idea of celebrity perfection.

There are numerous television shows which make many look at their own lives, causing them to suddenly want something different. Cosmetic surgery has swept through our society and becoming increasingly common as people want to look like their favorite celebrity and be more beautiful. Girls are perfect examples.Their own image becomes distorted as they see what is considered as beautiful in our society. This is absolutely ridiculous and sends out a message that a person's own identity is not good enough.

Divorce is also much more common in our society, and it is no surprise that this trend is seen with celebrity couples because they get divorced almost daily .Therefore divorce to them is something to expect because they are publicized and this has allowed our society to look at divorce and view it with less and less significance thus changing our perceptions.

Celebrity live extravagantly which is out of reach for many and this makes the not fortunate enough lower their economic status and feel as if their lives and the things that they do for fun or for pleasure suddenly aren't as good as for celebrities who can afford to do whatever they desire. People want something more, something bigger to fulfill their desires.

Society should stop copying celebrities to reflect what the perfect or ideal life is.Looking to the entertainment industry for just that and not as the guide to a perfect life, will help many to be more satisfied and happier with who they are.

The entertainment industry will always have an effect on the society however, we need to work towards the idea of these effects being positive on society. Transforming this, will take a tremendous amount of societal change which is not an easy task. With more people expressing concern over the negative images that the entertainment industry is creating, there will only be an increased chance that things might change for the better.

Alcoholism and Addiction: What are the steps to recovery?

Just this morning when I was going through twitter and this is what was trending; whole topic of alcoholism. First people do not know what it is and some say it is just drinking. Drinking What? We have seen many degrees and PHDs go to waste because of alcoholism, families separate, people die, children suffer, people being raped and much more because of drinking. Actually as we talk Kenya has become one of the top countries which count large loss of people due to drinking and driving. This case is worldwide and many people have lost lives while others suffered ‘unrepairable injuries’ and you can count more.

Maybe you may ask how all this starts and one of the comments on twitter confirmed to me that parents are the playing the biggest role in introducing alcohol to their kids. ‘RT @ntvkenya: "RT @SOTNKe: My Dad gave me my first drink- alcohol- Ann Mathu #SOTNKE" What role do parents play in curbing alcoholism?’ and many more I have heard. Others come out of influence while others it is a family thing and alcoholism is in their blood. We have seen people quit completely and life become better for them. On the other hand there are those who stop and continue after some months. Not blaming them or saying they had not made up their mind or something like that.

Talking of influence as mentioned above. This has been one of the ways in which people find themselves into drinking and finally becoming alcoholic. People may go out and decide to drink and after that it is a journey started which can never be quite. There are still some people to start and stop it after sometimes. These are people who know what they are doing and understand the whole concept of alcoholism and its dangers. There are other people who take counsel very carefully and limit themselves to drinking even when alcohol is available no matter the influence. This is yet another group of people who know what they are doing and want in life.

Another group of people is that which decide come rain come sunshine they are going to drink and bath with it to the last drop. This is poisoning you! These are people who do not care what life has and the goodness of it. There are other people who cannot drink and they do not have any interest in it at all and we can only say it is by choice. Now, I want us to focus on this group of people who do not know how to limit themselves as well as those who take alcohol as their daily bread.

The desire!!!

There are people who desire to stop drinking and resume to their daily life. These people need help from me and you. What these people need is the ability to stop going to bars and or restaurants which have bars and stop hanging out with friends who drink. But this is not the solution because if beer is brought on their table they are going to drink and be drunk. Anyone can talk to them and give them advice on how bad alcohol is and all that and they can even swear to their children, with grave, cross and anything that is in heaven and under the sun. This can solve nothing is the person has not made THE DECISION. Very important. A person who makes a decision cannot be controlled otherwise by anything or what. And that is why all any alcoholic person doesn’t need any counsel put in his or her head only but has a role to play and that is making the decision.

One of the highlights that was in twitter that caught my eyes was this. ‘RT @VinieO: If you have not started, don’t start- addiction is a disease but don’t be ashamed about it. Seek Help – Ann’ Mathu on @SOTNKe. This sounds like a person who has been into drinking. Or what we call tasting and knowing how it all goes. This maybe a person who knows every sweetness and every bitterness not forgetting the sour and pain of alcohol

Consequences of being alcoholic

Another comment which came into my eyes and touched me was this. ‘RT @VinieO: My mum took away my kids and said, 'enda kunywa mpaka ukufe' coz i would drink all day- Ann Mathu on @SOTNKe’. Imagine your own mother telling you this??? You think is because she doesn’t have any love remaining for such a person?? No! She was disappointed and now this was the only solution which is to help the children. Hoping the writer has now changed.

Another thing which can come apart from being separated from your family is lack of respect. You lose your dignity and any person can take you like rubbish or anything which is close or further than that.

Conclusion;

If you cannot control your drinking then do not go into it. If you cannot drink and be responsible then know it is not your thing and it is not fit for you. If you can drink and not think or behave then drinking is not of your type. If you can drink and forget that there is life for tomorrow then know drinking was not made or meant for you.
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How To Dress For An Event - You Don’t Have To Be Naked To Look Hot

Today we are going to talk about dressing for an event. We have a platform on adsasa.com where people advertise events which are coming up. This is where many people are coming to find where they can go and hangout with their friends. One thing which stresses people especially women is how to look and please their partners. Another thing is when a lady doesn’t have a partner and has gone for hunting or to be hunted. One thing is that they try to look better than others. There is always a competition in this especially when you are targeting a certain man out there.

The same thing applies to men who like going for entertainment events as well as official events looking forward to meeting a lady who looks more attractive to them. They as well find trouble with choosing what to wear and how to look. Others end up calling their friends and asking what they should wear and so it is not a girly thing only. Now, there comes a lot of confusion when it comes to dressing for an occasion. This doesn’t matter whether it is going to be in a garden, restaurant, bar or in the beach. Below we are going to focus on things to consider when dressing for an event.

Factors to consider while dressing for an event

1.    Where is the Event?

This is a major thing to consider when you are invited to go attend an event. This is because it will determine which kind of clothes you are going to wear. For example if an event is going to be in a club then you need to find the appropriate clothes for that. If it is in a garden you just picture the day, the color, event time and season and decide what kind of a dress to wear.

2.    Who will be there?

This is one of the questions which you should ask yourself when you are planning to attend an event. There are events whereby it is only young people who are attending. There are others where girls decide to meet and talk girly stuff and men can decide to meet as boys and do their thing. Another type of an event may involve male and female of different age. Now this is where you have to include respect in your dressing and it should remain as that. This doesn’t mean you should respect some and leave others behind but always dress with and in respect.

3.    When is the event?

Well, this point and factor includes time and season. There are some events which are held during the day while others at night. However, weather is always there to bring good tiding of dressing or bad. This is because you need clothes which can protect you from cold on a cold season and if it is on a sunny season then you know what to wear.

You Don’t Have To Be Naked To Impress!

Here is the biggest point. Most ladies think that being naked will please men and they will end up falling in love with them. Sorry to say this, but men don’t love naked women but they lust at them and despise them later. You can dress smartly and look hot. Just pick on clothes which are not exposing your body. Leave cleavage alone! Actually you need something fitting not tight and not lose…..

There are some events whereby you are given a dressing code and most of them prefer well dressed people. Others leave you to choose what to wear. Some of these events are attended by guys who are older than us and it is always good to wear good clothes which can bring praise and reveal your beauty without showing how your thighs and chest are. This doesn’t matter where the event is. It might in the bars or in any other place and so you just have to do it.

I captured this article in one of the websites which was talking about Naija designer Obioma who says the following, “I consider my good looks first. I will also make sure that what I’m wearing fits me without exposing my body. Not because I’m married with three children. After all, most mothers do that, including some that are old enough to be called grand-mothers. My reason for not trying that is because it is not decent for a lady to expose her body, knowing that you will be addressed the way you are dressed. You will only attract the wrong kind of men if you do so.”

Another post from a different  a certain forum says, babyBB: my advice to ladies who thinks that exposing their bodies is civilization, these are the messages u pass to guys.
1) That u are cheap and any man can have u
2) That u are not a marriage material and therefore can not be a role model to ur children
3) That they can fleet with u but can never marry u
4) Since they have been used to ur unclothedness there is nothing else special abt u
5) That u are irresponsible
REMEMBER that no man wants to settle with a 2nd hand woman , remain chaste exposing ur body will attract men dat are irresponsible

Another person said, “Life is a battle over lust for men and boys. I only ask that you don't give aide to the other side.”

I don’t understand where girls and women in general got the idea of walking naked to show they are beautiful. If you ask men they will actually tell you that is not a kind of a lady to marry. One person wrote and said hot chics are to have fun with but cute chics are the best wife materials. What he meant according to his explanation is that cute ladies are always decent but these beautiful and hot chics thinks everyone want them and even if they are left by the man a day cannot end without finding another one. Finally such ladies are used anyhow and when the time of marriage comes there is no man who wants to have them as a wife in the house.

If this is not what any lady out there wants then they should avoid it and be decent. It is a mindset and it can be changed within a second by changing your mind. Events will always be there and all you have to do is to be decent and update your status especially if you have been walking naked. To find the upcoming events click adsasa.com. Will keep updating you!

WOMEN AND ALCOHOL

Over the years,drinking of alcohol has been rampant whereby one in every three beer drinkers,one is a woman. The rise has been credited to changing role of the woman in the society,sexual abuse and least of all to help strengthen the beer industry despite the fact that men and society as well, have labored greatly under the notion that women should not take beer.

We have been seeing women protesting in some parts of the country about men taking too much of alcohol and forgetting that they are married. Alcohol can be harmful to anyone. The only difference that is there between alcohol consumption in women and in men is that in Africa alcohol is highly taken as a man thing. However, we have seen most affected children or families by alcohol where both parent especially mothers. This brings a lot of trouble in the society and it should be solved. We need to fight it out especially when we talk of being alcoholic.

T here is no official figure for how many women currently take alcohol professionally but its estimated that  nearly 45% of which you don't have to look hard to find them  more and more are pulling seats and ordering their favorite alcoholic drinks in local entertainment joints.Most of these drinkers are aged between 21-30years old.Women aged 50 and above are also taking up alcohol.

 According to African tradition,uptake of alcohol by women is highly condemned and associated with breaking the rules of an African woman whose responsible for taking care of the family.

Most women who don't take beer have one of two reasons. The first is the incredibly sexist marketing that brewing companies use-that is semi-nude models used to advertise.The other reason women commonly give for not liking beer is that, to them, that beer simply does not taste good.

Condemning alcohol uptake in women is associated with behavioral changes that encompasses a woman when they get drunk. It tends to stimulate women through possessing strange behaviors which to some extent are hard to control.They have a different response to alcohol intoxication. Studies have shown that acute alcohol consumption tends to cause increased libido in women, this in turn causes an increased interest in sex.

Woman are  vulnerable to sexual harassment when drunk because alcohol increases sexual arousal and desire, although it does lower the physiological signs of arousal making them different from men.They report a greater sexual arousal with increased alcohol consumption as well as increased sensations of pleasure during orgasm.

Alcohol has also played a role in numerous divorce cases. When a woman experiences alcohol problems, the negative effects of drinking exert a toll (anger and regret) not only to her, but also on their partner and other family members.Anytime there is alcoholism in marriage, the stress and strain between the couple is felt by the children. Children who grow up in alcoholic homes have a great deal of emotional scars they carry with them into adulthood. When a woman experiences alcohol problems, the negative effects of drinking exert a toll, not only to her, but also on their partner and other family members.
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CHOOSING THE RIGHT DJ FOR AN EVENT

The purpose of this article is to provide you with some guidance, so your choice will be informed and your decision will be easier.

Choosing a DJ for a function is one of the most important decisions you can make to ensure the success of your event. Even if everything else is perfect, without good music the party is likely to collapse. Selecting the right DJ can be confusing whereby everyone will promise to do a great job.
The easiest way to find a DJ you’re certain off is;




 




.To hire one whom you have seen perform. If you have attended a wedding or another party where the DJ was to your liking, it shouldn’t take too much looking around to find out who he or she was. If you didn’t take a business card at the event, your host, hostess or the manager of the venue where the party was held will surely be able to provide you with that information.

•    If you haven’t seen a good DJ perform recently, ask friends who are likely to have the same taste in music as you do. Ask them to tell you about events which they may have attended where the music was memorable although your own firsthand experience is by far the best way to make a choice of DJ’s, with the strong recommendation of a friend, a close second.

•    If you have not actually seen a DJ you like and your friends cannot offer suggestions therefore you need to do some research. Research   provides you with leads whether looking on-line, phone directories, or in print media, make note of the listings which appeal to you and appear to specialize in the type of party you are planning.

•    If you haven’t seen the DJ “live” you might ask to see photographs of weddings or other events at which the he has performed. This is because the way in which he dresses and his appearance are important elements in setting a mood for your affair.

•    Know the charges. Obviously, some DJs are more expensive than others.  The span is quite a wide one and it certainly can be very tempting to choose the least expensive alternative. It is wise to adhere to budget to avoid spending more than you can afford. Keeping within your budgetary guidelines, you need to keep in mind that there are good reasons why some DJs charge more than others. The more expensive DJs tend to be the more experienced ones. Their reputations and their demand allows them the luxury of charging more than their lesser known, less experienced, less in-demand colleagues. DJs on the low end of the price scale tend to be new to the business, trying to get established. You may really luck out by hiring a newcomer.

•    When you speak with the DJs, pay attention to the level of their professionalism on the phone. A professional tends to behave professionally regardless of the circumstances. In your discussion with each DJ, ask about his experience with your type of event. It would not be unusual for you to expect that the professional DJ you select will have performed at a minimum of twenty events like yours. Numbers in the hundreds are actually common for a well-established DJ.

•    If your on-the-phone, ask for reference because any DJ who hesitates to give you information about previous customers is sending out a warning sign that you should pay attention to. Get at least five or six names and phone numbers of people for whom the DJ has recently worked. Call these references and ask about the DJs performance.

•    Make sure to ask the DJ about their policy on requests. The best DJs will take requests from the audience and work them into the routine. Do keep in mind that a DJ should not be expected to play every request, as some may simply be inappropriate for the mood of the event. A good DJ will blend requests with songs he feels will motivate the crowd. The art of being a DJ has a lot to do with timing, and this takes experience. Incidentally, it is absolutely appropriate to give your DJ a list of five or six “must have” songs.

•    Many DJs proudly advertise that they have huge numbers of songs in their collection. So, it’s much more important that the sixty or seventy be those your guests will want to hear. Ask the DJ to make suggestions about the kind of music that would be appropriate for your affair. You should feel comfortable with most of his selections.

Find the best DJS

•    Professional equipment is the life blood of a good DJ. A particular DJ may boast about having great equipment, but unless you are familiar with professional audio gear, you probably won’t know the differences amongst brands.

•    When doing your interview, ask if the company has more than one DJ on staff. If they do, it’s important to get references on the particular individual who will be assigned to your party. It’s also advisable to ask how long that particular DJ has been in the business. You may be hiring an old, established business but an inexperienced DJ. In the rest of the consumer marketing world, so much emphasis is placed on “speaking to” women and reaching what’s known as the “power of the purse.

Now friends you can’t go wrong when it comes to selecting your list of DJs. As you have seen it is easy and as you follow all of the above points then your event will be successful. For any questions on the best DJs in the country you can call us and we will guide you. Do not forget to share this article with your friends.